Thursday, August 17, 2006
The Twenty Something Midlife Crisis
This post is my own venting and although it might not be relevant to anyone else, it's my blog so sorry but that's what it for. So last night I woke up at 3:30 with the following on my mind and I had to get this out. So what you are about to read is straight from last night. I am at a point in my life where it would be rather naive of me not to recognize that I need to update my resume and start looking for a new job. Don't get me wrong I have a good job now: the pay is good, I have a great boss that I have learned more from that if I had taken MBA courses, and I have flexibility that would be hard to find at another place. With all that being said the complexion of the company is changing and it is time for me to go and I am now taxed with the scary fact of; a new job but doing what? I have a degree in marketing...I feel like I did all the right things; I did well in high school, I went to college and got a degree. But I don't really have a skill. I'm not in computers; I'm not an accountant. I don't have a skill to put a finger on. Marketing is a knowledge base career that is very age discriminatory. You can't have a lot of knowledge in something unless you've experienced it and at twenty something I haven't had a lot. If I had gone to college for a skill based degree I wouldn't be here. An accountant can always find work because young or not numbers are always numbers. I read part of this book once that went into the new Mid-life crisis of the twenty something that includes myself. These are the folks I went to school with who are now faced with the question: Now What? Maybe the devil is trying to scare me into thinking I won't get another job or maybe God is just trying to wake me up to not be complacent where I am. It's God, He just told me to move. It's time to move on. Please tell me where to go, how do I do this? I don't even know where I am.
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Nicole honey you are letting fear take over as a believer. You know where it comes from. Please mediate on Ephesians 6 starting with verse 9 to bring back the presence of the Holy Spirit into your mind for you know He is our Comforter and a gift to us here on earth from God the Father. He will give you peace but you must apply your Faith in Him to guide your path. I am sorry to hear about you feeling you need to look for other employment. If he is telling you to move on, He will continue to guide your path, keep the Faith. Nicole we all go through dark times in life and yes we don't understand what is going on, we may wonder where God is, why He doesn't change our circumstances, and even doubt His presence. Nicole God always knows where you are and is in control and has a purpose. He is changing you on the inside for something greater in store for you to do for him (been there and up at 3:00 a.m.)! Nicole his purpose will last as long as is necessary for God to accomplish his purpose. Nicole think about the Patriarch Joseph in the Bible! Just think about what God was preparing him for in his dark valley, did God reward him greatly? Nicole submit yourself to Him, trust Him and obey Him! Never forget Nicole we will never want better for ourselves then what God wants for us! Nicole our lesson in life that give us wisdom comes from our dark valleys in life. Just think how much can you recall that you felt was a life lesson when times were good? You will see God will be having you sharing what He wants you to learn during this period of time. I will keep you in prayer honey that you understand His purpose for this valley in your life. Keep the Faith and continue to do our greatest work which is to believe in Him!.
God bless!
Deshirl
(second time at your site today, first time didn't get to read it but He wanted me to read it now)
Your path has already been laid out for you, all you have to do is follow it. I can tell you about two things that I know about already, realestate and writing your book. Not to say that this is what you are ment to do but you have been blessed at a very young age to know what you want to do or be. I say follow that dream. You will always be supported by me and the ones that you love. If things get too bad we can just move to a tropical island and enjoy the magical days and nights that the LORD has provided.
After reading your blog - I am reminded of Abraham in Gen. 19:17-19. The Lord will not hide from us the thing that which he does for us nor about us. He knows the plans he has for us. He has great and mighty works that he has already predestined you to do that is going to bless many. Your footsteps are ordered by the Lord. Nothing just happens. Everything has purpose - our failures and success, our ups and downs, our likes and dislikes, our sad times and joyous times, being understood and being misunderstood, our decision making and our indecisiveness - He knows it all. All He wants us to do is to trust Him and obey Him. He said "Move" - then He will show you the path to take.
You said - "I don't have a skill to put a finger on". He says - "Everything you need for whatever journey I lead you on, is inside of you. Therefore, you have all skills, talents and abilities equiped and ready to be put to action. Just muster (call forth) enough courage to tap into what I have already deposited in you before you entered into your mother's womb".
Nikki let me say this to you........think back just think back for a minute or two, when Black & Decker closed or what ever they did,,,,,,did not your father take care of you plus sent you on this job today yes or no.......you are too smart of a young woman not to find something and because you're seeking God putting him and trusting him first......he''ll lead you right to the job HE has waiting for you.
I don't know if you even really realized what you wrote but I found it to be quite amazing...in one sentence you wrote is this the devil or God and the very next you said it's God he just told you to move....................Thats what I'm talking about! See he spoke just that fast, all you have to do now is MOVE like he said.............Believe me Nik, as I told you in one of your Blog's already God will never tell you to do something and then as we say "leave you hangin"......thats just not how he works.......just obey and listen for his instructions and move,when he says ok Nicole pause. Then you pause when he says ok time to pick the phone up or time to go to the red building on the other side town, just do exactly what he tells you. God has your back,,,,so does Ricky, I love his comment, that's my son-in law :) Everything will be fine.Love you Mom
I know how you feel. I am going to give you my perspective on things and you let me know what you think. I don't see it as a Twenty Something Midlife Crisis. To me that is just a nice way of saying I am afraid. Afraid to make that decision because I don't know what is going to happen. I am afraid to step out on faith and receive my blessings. I too am a Twenty Something and I finally realized that I have allowed myself to become complacent and that is not having faith. Most of my life I have talked about owning my own salon. Over the past couple of years I have become more and more discouraged about it. I have been so concerned about money and affording our lifestyle but I know that is not good. That has changed because I have changed. I am removing fear from my life and replacing it with faith. When I was younger I had created a timeline for completing goals to reach my ultimate goal of opening my business and I am still on track. I know that if I continue to have faith and trust in God whatever His plan is for my life will happen. I have realized that I don’t feel fulfilled in my career in computers because that is not where my passion lies. I enjoy working with it, and know that my knowledge will do tremendous things for my business but it’s not my purpose in life according to God’s will. I am learning everyday to move when God moves me in whatever direction. I am releasing my hold on my life and giving it to God because I know He will do a much better job in controlling me than I have. That’s all you need to do is let go and let God. If He is moving you to update your resume, then do it. And see where He takes you. When you feel afraid and unsure call on His name to remove those negative thoughts and feelings. Don’t be afraid of what God has in store for your life. The creation of this blog alone should tell you that you are headed in the right direction already. Just let God lead. You are blessed with the gift of words. He speaks to you and through you to touch the lives of everyone you know and even those that you don’t know that have been told about your blog. Don’t be discouraged or allow fear to run your life. The best is yet to come you just have to receive it and be faithful. I am excited for you and the many things to come because I know that they are going to be great and touched by God to be blessings for His children.
To everyone who left a comment... All of these comments I'm sure were not just for me but anyone who read them I'm sure was encouraged by them. DeShirl, thank you for the scriptures. Ricky, thank you for being my rock. I know you are always there for me. Mom, I always can get the truth from you even when it may not be what I want to hear it's always what I need. Pastor Vanda, although you said I have deep thoughts, all of your comments have been DEEP to me. You take it to the deepness of the depths. Thanks for even taking the time to read my site. And D, what can I say we are like Virgina Slims "we've come a long way baby." Let's keep it moving!
Ok i will say this as well as everyone else has- step out on faith. I am being faced with kind of the same thing. I am looking into doing in-home daycare and that would mean a whole new career. I would be quitting my job that in a funny sort of way i'm content with and starting over. I have struggled back and forth with school and i am by no means a dumb person but for whatever reason i haven't found anything yet that have completed but I am going to give this business a try and like i told you i will be stepping out on faith and trusting that if i take the first step that God will be right there beside me as he will you.
Ok i will say this as well as everyone else has- step out on faith. I am being faced with kind of the same thing. I am looking into doing in-home daycare and that would mean a whole new career. I would be quitting my job that in a funny sort of way i'm content with and starting over. I have struggled back and forth with school and i am by no means a dumb person but for whatever reason i haven't found anything yet that have completed but I am going to give this business a try and like i told you i will be stepping out on faith and trusting that if i take the first step that God will be right there beside me as he will you.
I know this for a fact: when you are moving in God's plan everything just feels right. It may be a little scary to our flesh but the faith within us has to keep up steady during those times.
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