Sunday, August 20, 2006
Knowing your surroundings
Okay so the flip side of a strong support system...As I wrote the post on the support system I began to think about those people who really and truly think they have a good support system but in reality their support is really trying to tear them down. Some of us have family and friends who we think have our backs through any situation but really the advice and seemingly words of wisdom they give us are out of envy, jealousy, and malice. The very people who we go to in situations of worry, intimidation, and fear are the same ones who say that they love us and are praying for us but still give advice that is self serving and out of anger and not love. Have you ever gone to someone for help only to receive ungodly advice? I have someone in my life; who while I was in a very taxing situation were I was faced with a very difficult decision of leaving a job after my husband and I had just bought a new house, tell me "well now you got this big ole house and now you can't pay for it". I was already in a very lost state (I had no idea of what decision I should make) and to hear something like that come from someone whom I love and is supposed to love me was very hurtful; mostly so because I know the comment came out of jealousy. I had to deal with the anger that the one comment made me feel but I have never forgotten it. It to me is a constant reminder to never go to that person in a real time of trial or anxiety. It is very important to know the people you have surrounding you...Some of those people have proven that they are worthy to be in your support system and others (and you have to know who they are) just don't always have your best interest at heart. It is important not to blame those people for not being able to be more giving but you have to know that everyone in life has their own trials that have made them the way they are. We never know what another persons 40 days have been like. But that's another blog.. :0)
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Jesus,this so so DEEP&So vey True, If I didn't know any better, I would think you had Read my Journal for the last few days.I often feel the things GOD had you just write about.Who really has my back and Best interest at Heart? Without those jealous, selfish reasons you wrote about.Self serving advice. hum ...wow,I felt that one!!!!! I know I'm the kind of person that says ''I have your back and best interest at heart and really do,however I don't always feel the same in return.No I not saying either that I want something in return for having somebody's else's back but when I go through tough times ect,most of the time I have to go at it alone.I know often times you've told me, Mom you can't expect people to think and feel the way you do, well I'm trying to take that advice to heart.I know that God really has my back and All my interest at heart for real. He is teaching me everyday to depend on him and him alone.PEOPLE will say and do anything,But when it comes down to the support they are not there. like your comment about ''the big ole house''.You better know your surroundings, The word tells us in 1Thess:5:12 know those who labor among you,which he is telling us in essence the same topic in this Blog.I better end this comment now as this is a very touchy subject for me today :)I just really thank God for your obidence Nikki ''this blog'' is truly Anointed!!!!!!!!!!
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. My mother has always told me don't believe that everyone who loves you wants the best for you, including family. I come from a very close family but I have learned from past situations that those same family members that helped raise me and that I grew up with are consumed with jealousy. Sometimes they know it and other times they don't. They love me but deep down inside don't want me to do better than them. They believe we all should be about the same. But my mother has always shown myself and my sister that we are not defined by where we come from and that includes our family. She has always pushed us to be greater than she. My mother has always had more faith in me and my sister then we have for ourselves. My mother taught me that God is all that I need. She has been saying it for years and now I finally get it. I thank God for blessing me with a woman who is not only a strong, loving mother, but best of all a woman of God. I know that I would not be who and what I am today if it was not for her. She set the foundation by taking me to church ALL OF THE TIME growing up. When I go through tough situations I know that God is my comforter and all that I need to get through anything because she has been an excellent example of a true Christian woman. Over the past weeks He has shown me through a number of people in my life that He is always with me and all around me. He has used so many wonderful people in my life as representatives of Him to comfort me through my trials. God brings His true soldiers to light when you need Him most and you show Him that you need Him. I remember the "big ole house" comment and I also remember how much it hurt you. But even though that person didn't have your back, you know I did and always will. We have come a long way and have even further to go Batman!:o)
Hey D, you can always be my trusty sidekick! Or I'll be yours :0)
WOW - NIKKI - this is DEEP!!!!! We must know our surroundings and be alert. Everyone in our inner circles can't give us support because they are equipped to handle our hurts and blessings. It is vitally important for our sanity that we be aware of the sheep, goats and the wolves in our lives. Sheep are the good support system. Goats appear to be like sheep - they are a good support system but their motives are right. Then the wolves are deceivers, jugemental, negative, not happy for your blessings.
Yes I agree with you we must know our surroundings.
I am exacted to read the blog about the 40 days!!!!!!!!!!
Everyone in our inner circles can't give us support because they are equipped to handle our hurts and blessings.
Correction: ...because they AREN'T
equipped to handle our hurts and blessing.
I agree with what Pastor Vanda had to say. Everyone we have surrounding us aren't always equipted to support us.
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