Tuesday, August 08, 2006
Selfish Lovers
As I was on the topic of unconditional love and when to love and when to let go, it got me thinking about all of us who love people who say that they love us to but deep down we know they don't. I think there are people out there who really don't have a concept of what love really is. Some people think they love you because you love them but really what they love is the attention and the care that you give them. Those folks are lost, confused, and usually very needy. The need to be around people to fulfill them instead of finding fulfillment within. These kinds of people will latch onto the love that you give them and suck you dry until you are trying to figure out why you are so drained all the time. These lost people don't really love you because they don't love themselves. Should we still love these types of people unconditionally; should you love or let go? I don't think love should ever be harmful. It should never make you fell less than you are nor should it ever hold you back from your fullest potential. If the one you love doesn't and can't really love you back, you should let it go. You can still love but love from a far because 2nd hand smoke kills! And the toxicness from someone who doesn't love themselves enough to love someone else can make you miserable.
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Powerful message for someone so young about love but so true and yes life trails and pains can make one wise quick. I think of Malachi 3:3 where our Christ is trying his people and perfecting their characters through those trails and pains. Yes Satan uses those trails and troubles intending to turn people away from God, but Jesus uses them to test our Faith and purify us from sin! Just studied this in a Bible lesson so I just had to
Share in my comment of what a powerful message for today that you have given!
God bless!
Deshirl
How do you know if a person really doesn't care for you? Love shouldn't hurt but telling that person that that they are hurting you is one of the hardest things in the world. How many people out there can think back to a time when they were going to just walk out, move on, get rid of the problem and just couldn't do it in the end.
I agree with the writer, selfish lovers are the worst kind of loves and should be cut out of our lives like cancer in the body.
Whew.......this is deep and very very very true.I listen and some people think love is sex,or because you pay the bills,you have kids together,I do this and that for you.I was always told by my grandmom, anybodycan say those words butwhat do their actions say...Love shouldn't ever be selfish It should always be I'm doing this just because Not the other way around,I did this so you now have to do it back.You Must Love God first,then truly love yourself,then God can teach you how to really Love another...
good point!!people that don't love theirselves cant love another.how could they?..I like thepart about the second hand smoke, sure made me think.In essence,this carrys me right back to 1Corin:13:4-7
Wow - Nikki - what deep thoughts you have. I love the point you made - "Some people think they love you because you love them but really what they love is the attention and the care that you give them." ...and yes it does drain you. In the Bible it talks about the wheat and the tarry growing together but in the end the tarry blows away with the wind and the wheat remain. Truth be told we need these kind of people in our life to make us stronger. Iron sharpens iron and men sharpen men. We have to have patient endurance and wait on God to send the wind that is going to blow those needy people out of our path. God is giving them an opportunity to learn to display unconditional love because he has us before them illuminating His love. So they will be held accountable for the love they didn't grasp because of their selfishness.
Keep writing because their are many books laying in your womb.
I think the comment about the wind blowing those people who try to drain us is great. We all need to remeber to wait on God to take care of all situations in his time.
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