I got a message this morning that I felt was really important to share. I'm pretty sure that I heard this before somewhere else but this morning it really sank in and I had one of those lightbulb moments. The message was this: Everything that you don't have in your life is a direct result of your own choices and actions because God only wants good things for us. I'm sure that many of us have asked "why me Lord" and really the answer is becuase of our own free will bad things happen. You can blame anyone else for your lifes short comings or the things that you don't have because the only person that you can control is you. So if you want a better marriage, what are you doing to make it better? You can't keep blaming everything on your spouse because he is a bad husband or doesn't do things as you like them. You married that man just like he married you. You made the choice of being with him til death do you part. What are you doing to make sure you make it that far. Or if you have a job that you don't like; did you take that job for more money thinking that the money would make you happy only to realize that you hate getting up for work every morning? You can't blame it on your rude coworkers or your ignorant boss because you chose that job and you can just as easily make the chose to leave that situation.
This message goes with everything in our lives. Don't blame God for the bad things that only you have created in your own life. Relationships with our children, parents, siblings, and friends are all results of our own creation which means if we helped make it a bad situation we can certainly try our own personal best to make the situation better. Think about how great this message is! If God only wants what best for us and only our own pride, stubbornness and built up walls are stopping us from being where we want to be, then how great it is to know that all we have to do is change the negative thinking and things we've been doing to live the God approved life that He wants for us anyway.
Marinate on that!
Monday, November 19, 2007
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Because I love it...
I hope everyone went out this opening weekend to see Tyler Perry's "Why Did I Get Married". The movie was excellent. Mr. Perry has taken his movies to that next level where the story line and over all premise of the movie transcends it just being a black movie, although I love the fact that all the main characters are black! If you haven't seen it yet please enlighten your life a little and head to the theater. I promise you will laugh, cry, and learn something that could either help you as a married person or someone that you know who is married.
Now I have another movie that I think is going to be great to tell you about called "This Christmas". Here is the trailer for the movie: http://www.sonypictures.com/movies/thischristmas/
Make sure you check it out.
Now I have another movie that I think is going to be great to tell you about called "This Christmas". Here is the trailer for the movie: http://www.sonypictures.com/movies/thischristmas/
Make sure you check it out.
Friday, October 05, 2007
Why Did I Get Married?
That is the title of Tyler Perry's new movie and the topic on Oprah's show on Wedensday. Oprah has 4 couples on and pose tha question to them and it was quite a surprise listening to all the different answers. Like most open dialogue shows it brought me to thinking "why did I myself get married?" I think the answer to that question is different now to my answer for why am I still married? I got married because I was in love and couldn't picture myself with anyone else. I am still married because God has allowed me to see a man that I didn't see before and the fact that God has opened our relationship to a level that I didn't really think exsisted. My husband is my best friend and I know I can tell him anything and I do. Even the things that I know he may not want to hear or things that I may be nervous to tell him. He's better than a girlfriend because I know his feelings aren't hurt when I just say things that come into my mind without sensoring them. God brought me a friend that I truely cherish.
I think this new Tyler Perry film is going to be a host to open up dialogue for many couples, friends, and married people. Check out the trailer here:
http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1809847807/video/3691134/20070813/122/3691134-1000-wmv-s.40793780-,3691134-100-flash-s.40793782-,3691134-300-flash-s.40793783-,3691134-100-wmv-s.40793776-,3691134-300-wmv-s.40793777-,3691134-700-flash-s.40793785-,3691134-700-wmv-s.40793778-,3691134-1000-flash-s.40793787-,3691139-6800-qtv-s.40793791-,3691139-2700-qtv-s.40793788-,3691139-10300-qtv-s.40793797-#4154015
And let's go out and support Tyler and his truthful portrayl of regualr black folks and not the fools that THEY would like us to be seen as. But that's another post for another day.
I think this new Tyler Perry film is going to be a host to open up dialogue for many couples, friends, and married people. Check out the trailer here:
http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1809847807/video/3691134/20070813/122/3691134-1000-wmv-s.40793780-,3691134-100-flash-s.40793782-,3691134-300-flash-s.40793783-,3691134-100-wmv-s.40793776-,3691134-300-wmv-s.40793777-,3691134-700-flash-s.40793785-,3691134-700-wmv-s.40793778-,3691134-1000-flash-s.40793787-,3691139-6800-qtv-s.40793791-,3691139-2700-qtv-s.40793788-,3691139-10300-qtv-s.40793797-#4154015
And let's go out and support Tyler and his truthful portrayl of regualr black folks and not the fools that THEY would like us to be seen as. But that's another post for another day.
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Quote for the Day
Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the presence of God no matter what the conflict.
Rev. Run
Marinate on that...
Rev. Run
Marinate on that...
Monday, September 24, 2007
Keep Pushing
I recently got an email that had the acronymn; P.U.S.H. I've heard this before from my pastor at church but I guess it resignated differently with me becasue of my current situation. The acronymn stands for Pray Until Something Happens. Four little word but a huge task. It really seems that when you are in the midst of any storm it become so easy to just give up an say "I'm tired of trying" or "Nothing seems to work". To keep pushing is a hard thing to do but in the end it really is the only thing you can do because if you could change the situation you are in, you would have done it by now, right? Keep pushing and believing that you will receive an answer and don't be afraid of what you hear when your prayer is answered.
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Been So Long
I don't really have a good excuse of why I haven't written in so long. I actually have had things to say, thoughts to get out, news to share, and stories to tell but for some reason I haven't posted. Laziness I guess. Anyway I always come back though, don't I? I love writing and this blog is as close to a book journal as I can get right now. Not quite a personal diary because hey I'm not fool, I'm not putting all my personal business out there 

So, I'm in quite a conundrum right now. My mind in rolling over trying to analysis the situation that I find myself in but I'm not able to find my way. In times like these I always pray for God to clear my mind, to help me see what I'm supposed to see but I (more often than not) never seem to get that clarity without much turmoil. How do you know when you are walking in God's given path and when you are trying to carve your own way? I've been told that with God's way there is no confusion, no doubts. But it can't be that easy because I can't seem to reach that clearing of no doubt and confusion without going though so much of it that I make myself dizzy with trying to figure out if I'm supposed to be going left or right.
This really seems to be something I struggle with a lot. Life changing decisions don't seem to be my forte. I'm praying that God work on this within me. It's such an innate need of mine to not knowingly or willing do anything against God's will that I find myself standing still when I feel like I should just be moving where ever He leads me, but I find it so hard to take that first step. Like my feet have cemented themselves in fear, mistrust, doubt of my own intuition. I want to cry in my frustration but all I can do is just ask for the help and the clarity that I so need. Please show me the right way. In Jesus' name.
So, I'm in quite a conundrum right now. My mind in rolling over trying to analysis the situation that I find myself in but I'm not able to find my way. In times like these I always pray for God to clear my mind, to help me see what I'm supposed to see but I (more often than not) never seem to get that clarity without much turmoil. How do you know when you are walking in God's given path and when you are trying to carve your own way? I've been told that with God's way there is no confusion, no doubts. But it can't be that easy because I can't seem to reach that clearing of no doubt and confusion without going though so much of it that I make myself dizzy with trying to figure out if I'm supposed to be going left or right.
This really seems to be something I struggle with a lot. Life changing decisions don't seem to be my forte. I'm praying that God work on this within me. It's such an innate need of mine to not knowingly or willing do anything against God's will that I find myself standing still when I feel like I should just be moving where ever He leads me, but I find it so hard to take that first step. Like my feet have cemented themselves in fear, mistrust, doubt of my own intuition. I want to cry in my frustration but all I can do is just ask for the help and the clarity that I so need. Please show me the right way. In Jesus' name.
Thursday, June 28, 2007
A Learning Curve
I recently heard someone say that "Relationships are God's assignments for us, a curriculum for spiritual growth."
The way the person stated it kind of made me stop and really think about those words. We've all heard the saying that "everything happens for a reason" but somehow knowing that every single person that God places in our paths to meet for a second or for years is all so important. These lessons are to help us all reach the higher ground that God wants us to be on. I know all of us at some point have wondered "what is all of this for, what is life really about?" Well I think the level of enlightenment, the level of thinking the way God wants us to, taking the limits off of our lives; is the reason for it all.
The way the person stated it kind of made me stop and really think about those words. We've all heard the saying that "everything happens for a reason" but somehow knowing that every single person that God places in our paths to meet for a second or for years is all so important. These lessons are to help us all reach the higher ground that God wants us to be on. I know all of us at some point have wondered "what is all of this for, what is life really about?" Well I think the level of enlightenment, the level of thinking the way God wants us to, taking the limits off of our lives; is the reason for it all.
Monday, June 11, 2007
Being a Star
I can't remember where I heard this but it really resonated with me once I really thought about it. Hilliary Clinton has been in the spot light now for years and handling it well but in the beginning and through the trails of her marriage just about everyone has had something to say about what she should do and how she she conduct herself. Of course its always hard when outsiders have comments on how your life should be, and Mrs. Clinton found herself very upset and asking her mother for advice on how to handle all the criticism.
Mrs. Rodham gave her daughter some great advice (like all good mothers do!). She told her daughter these simple words: "Do you want to be an actor in your own life or a re-actor in others". You can only make changes in your own life and attitude.
Make sure you are being the star in your own movie and let God be your director. You'll definitely have a hit on your hand.
Mrs. Rodham gave her daughter some great advice (like all good mothers do!). She told her daughter these simple words: "Do you want to be an actor in your own life or a re-actor in others". You can only make changes in your own life and attitude.
Make sure you are being the star in your own movie and let God be your director. You'll definitely have a hit on your hand.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Something To Marinate On
Thought for Today
"You really don't become what you want. You become what you believe."
—Oprah
"You really don't become what you want. You become what you believe."
—Oprah
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
An Episode of Oprah
There recently was an episode of Oprah with a woman who was in an abusive marriage. I'm an avid Oprah viewer but the commercials for this particular show were so disturbing that I couldn't even bring myself to watch it. In the commercials you could hear and see this woman's husband cursing and beating her because he had their teenage son video tape it. All a little too much for me, but I do realize that there are many women and young girls who live that life everyday.
In college, a friend was in a situation where she was being beaten. We would see her in classes with black eyes and bruises but it still took a while to ask her what was going on; even though we knew. Of course at first she lied but finally she did admit that she needed some help. Why did it take so long to ask a friend if she needed help when the answer was already so clear? Well its a curious thing, but somehow the person who is being abused either believes that they deserve it or that being beaten is a form of love. Either way as a friend, you know that they are more apt to be defensive and not receptive to help.
I recently heard some advice on the Steve Harvey show about how to deal with a loved one in these types of situations. Steve gave the advice to not confront your loved one but go straight to the abuser or send that unscrupulous cousin or nephew that's been in jail once or twice; basically someone who doesn't really have good sense! You get that person to go and talk to the abuser and basically say "Hey look, we all know what's going on so you don't even have to try to deny it. You need to stay away from (insert name here) or some real bad things might happen to you." Then if you'd like to throw some extra stuff in there, then you can use a couple of lines from Bad Boys 2 when that boy came to pick up Marcus's daughter and Mike asked him if he ever slept with a man. You know what I'm talking about if you've seen the movie. Then chop the dude in the throat so he can't breathe...
I thought this was great advice. But if you'd like some PhD advice, I've got that too click on this link: http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200705/tows_past_20070508_c.jhtml
I personally like and will follow the Steve Harvey advice should there be another person in my life who needs this kind of help. I surely will not be going to any one's apartment to ask their crazy boyfriend to leave peacefully anymore, believe me crazy and peaceful don't go together. You have to fight crazy with crazy; send your crazy cousin to handle business.
In college, a friend was in a situation where she was being beaten. We would see her in classes with black eyes and bruises but it still took a while to ask her what was going on; even though we knew. Of course at first she lied but finally she did admit that she needed some help. Why did it take so long to ask a friend if she needed help when the answer was already so clear? Well its a curious thing, but somehow the person who is being abused either believes that they deserve it or that being beaten is a form of love. Either way as a friend, you know that they are more apt to be defensive and not receptive to help.
I recently heard some advice on the Steve Harvey show about how to deal with a loved one in these types of situations. Steve gave the advice to not confront your loved one but go straight to the abuser or send that unscrupulous cousin or nephew that's been in jail once or twice; basically someone who doesn't really have good sense! You get that person to go and talk to the abuser and basically say "Hey look, we all know what's going on so you don't even have to try to deny it. You need to stay away from (insert name here) or some real bad things might happen to you." Then if you'd like to throw some extra stuff in there, then you can use a couple of lines from Bad Boys 2 when that boy came to pick up Marcus's daughter and Mike asked him if he ever slept with a man. You know what I'm talking about if you've seen the movie. Then chop the dude in the throat so he can't breathe...
I thought this was great advice. But if you'd like some PhD advice, I've got that too click on this link: http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200705/tows_past_20070508_c.jhtml
I personally like and will follow the Steve Harvey advice should there be another person in my life who needs this kind of help. I surely will not be going to any one's apartment to ask their crazy boyfriend to leave peacefully anymore, believe me crazy and peaceful don't go together. You have to fight crazy with crazy; send your crazy cousin to handle business.
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
Knowing When
Have you ever been conflicted with the thoughts of something that you needed to get off your mind? Something that you really felt like you had to express to someone else? Most times when I feel like that, I try to really think about why I want to say whatever it is that's on my mind. Is it for my benefit or for someone else? Will the conversation actually have a positive outcome? If I can't answer the questions in a positive manner I usually keep my thoughts to myself. Not everything needs to be said, and if it does need to be spoken it doesn't have to be said by me. It's important to me to make my word count and sometimes above all silence is golden.
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Because I've been told to...
I've had some very busy days at work and at home and haven't really had a chance to post. I've been meaning to post a quote of the day for the last week but I had to today because I just know God wants me to. I was watching a movie and had to rewind it 3x's to listen to this line again and again:
"Who you chose to have around you, let you know who you are."
I've heard this quote before but stated differently as I'm sure you have too, "Birds of a feather flock together", but for some reason when I heard it in that movie it made so much more sense to me. Then today I received an email with the following message:
Who are you around?Are the people around you your idea of who you wanna be? If you want to be in fashion, go to 7th Ave!! Wanna be a movie star??? Go to Hollywood!!! Ducks hang with ducks! Frogs jump with frogs! Where are you going? What is your aim? Watch the company you keep!!! (Remember!) If you keep going to the barber shop, you're bound to get a hair cut!!!
I knew I had to make this post and stop putting it off. Someone out there needs to read it. Maybe it was me or maybe it's you but I know it's important not to put things off as coincidences. God makes all things happen.
"Who you chose to have around you, let you know who you are."
I've heard this quote before but stated differently as I'm sure you have too, "Birds of a feather flock together", but for some reason when I heard it in that movie it made so much more sense to me. Then today I received an email with the following message:
Who are you around?Are the people around you your idea of who you wanna be? If you want to be in fashion, go to 7th Ave!! Wanna be a movie star??? Go to Hollywood!!! Ducks hang with ducks! Frogs jump with frogs! Where are you going? What is your aim? Watch the company you keep!!! (Remember!) If you keep going to the barber shop, you're bound to get a hair cut!!!
I knew I had to make this post and stop putting it off. Someone out there needs to read it. Maybe it was me or maybe it's you but I know it's important not to put things off as coincidences. God makes all things happen.
Wednesday, May 02, 2007
Ever wonder??
Have you ever thought what it would be like to be in someone else? Not in the sense that you want to be someone else but just the thought of what someone else goes through. I find myself looking at people sometimes and just wondering what's going on in their head. I always try to imagine what someone else might be going through because I think as we all get wrapped up in the story of our own lives we become so detached from other people that we can't related to other's problem. Of course your situation becomes "different" because it's your problem and of course no one else could possibly understand. I think when we all realize that just about every situation boils down to being the same then it will be a little easier to stop blaming others for not understanding us.
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
Making the Right Choices
At times; although I am 28 years old, married, and a mother, I still feel like a little kid. I know that I don't always make the right decisions but I always try to be true to myself and not hurt the people around me. I don't even know what to write here because I really can't express what I'm feeling in a vague but specific way. I guess I can sum up what I want to say by saying this; if intention rules the world then I am in a good place because I don't go out in the world EVER with negative intentions. Hopefully intent does mean something.
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
The Craziness of the World
When I first heard about the Virginia Tech shootings, I thought it was a very sad thing that hap pend and that it was very crazy that someone would do something like this but I wasn't really hurt or saddened too much. That is until I read an account of some of the wounded students who had lived through this horrible ordeal. One of the students told how scared he was when they saw the gunman come in the room with both guns raised and knowing that there was no where to run or nothing to do other than pray. The young man said he just laid on the floor while he was shot 3 times, and wondered if he would die slowly, if it would hurt to die, what his parents would think and thinking about his fellow classmates.
Reading that article really brought me into that room with those kids. I felt such a surge of sadness and grief for those kids and their parents. It's such a scary thing moving throughout the world and knowing in all actuality you are not safe. There are people in this world who don't value their own lives so of course can't possibly have regard for anyone else. No one every wants to think of the negative things that could happen even on a daily basis which to me makes it even more necessary to be in touch with God. God is happiness, everything good and knowing that makes it a little easier to cope with horrible things like this.
Reading that article really brought me into that room with those kids. I felt such a surge of sadness and grief for those kids and their parents. It's such a scary thing moving throughout the world and knowing in all actuality you are not safe. There are people in this world who don't value their own lives so of course can't possibly have regard for anyone else. No one every wants to think of the negative things that could happen even on a daily basis which to me makes it even more necessary to be in touch with God. God is happiness, everything good and knowing that makes it a little easier to cope with horrible things like this.
Quote for the Day
"Let go of the noise, And when you let go there's only God." Russel Simmons
When I read this it really resignated with me. It seems lately that everything I see, hear, or read is dealing with getting closer to that wonderful source that is God. I feel like I have a good relationship with that source already but I know it's not to a point when I can easily recognize it all the time. I'm still working on my HOW, but I can feel that energy of God pointing me in the right direction; I just need to let go of the noise.
When I read this it really resignated with me. It seems lately that everything I see, hear, or read is dealing with getting closer to that wonderful source that is God. I feel like I have a good relationship with that source already but I know it's not to a point when I can easily recognize it all the time. I'm still working on my HOW, but I can feel that energy of God pointing me in the right direction; I just need to let go of the noise.
Friday, April 13, 2007
The Zone
I recently joined my church's softball team or softball ministry as they like to call it. We practice on just about every week at a batting cage not far from my house. At one of the practices there was a woman on the team who asked me to help her learn how to hit like I do. She asked me to explain the mechanics of how I hit the ball so hard and how to get the correct timing; in short she wanted to know how I hit the ball. I look at her and told her I didn't really know. I tried to think about what goes through my mind right before I hit the ball so that I could try to explain the feeling but I couldn't. The more I thought about it the more I realized that my mind is in a state of elevation where everything just feels right so I don't have to think. Most people who are good at something can recall being "in the zone" and not really having to think about anything but the feeling is so right that nothing goes wrong. It's God given talent whether it's playing a sport, doing someones taxes, writing, or even being a parent; you know in those moments that it's nothing that you are doing but something that is already inside that you couldn't have created even if you tried.
I want to feel that with my prayers and in listening to God's voice.
I want to feel that with my prayers and in listening to God's voice.
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Something I Needed
I recieved a book that I couldn't put down when I first got it called the "Purpose Driven Life". This book captivated me but at the time I was also reading 2 other books and put the book down thinking I would pick it back up after I finished the other two. I didn't pick the book back up until last night and the chapter that I read had the answer to a question that I have been asking a lot lately. I feel like I know the solution now but I still need to figure out the correct steps to get there. My question is this: What am I here for? What is my purpose? What do you want me to do? I'm sure just about everyone at some point in their lives has asked this question because I think as human beings we all are in search of the WHY of our lives.
So when I read the following quote from CS Lewis I knew God had directed me to open that book and read that chapter: "The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become-because He made us. It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality that I first begin to have a real personality of my own." I also read this quote which struck me: "You can not fulfill God's purpose for your life while focusing on your own plans"
It all makes so much sense to me but I'm still praying on the HOW. The chapter said you just have to submit yourself to God's will but I'm still wondering HOW. In all things, there is nothing more frustrating to me that to know that there is something that needs to be done, to even know what the end product needs to be but not know how to get it done. I'm praying on it and I'm praying for others as well because I know I'm not the only one wondering How to move in the way that God want us to move. I really feel like it should be an easy thing, a natural thing but I can't quite find the switch to get me out of the dark.
So when I read the following quote from CS Lewis I knew God had directed me to open that book and read that chapter: "The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become-because He made us. It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality that I first begin to have a real personality of my own." I also read this quote which struck me: "You can not fulfill God's purpose for your life while focusing on your own plans"
It all makes so much sense to me but I'm still praying on the HOW. The chapter said you just have to submit yourself to God's will but I'm still wondering HOW. In all things, there is nothing more frustrating to me that to know that there is something that needs to be done, to even know what the end product needs to be but not know how to get it done. I'm praying on it and I'm praying for others as well because I know I'm not the only one wondering How to move in the way that God want us to move. I really feel like it should be an easy thing, a natural thing but I can't quite find the switch to get me out of the dark.
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
Wisdom Comes From Everywhere
Instead of trying to summarize and repeat this increadible thought, I figured it would be much better to have a guest writer and use his own words. So I hope this inspires someone:
I was given this message from one of my classmates last week after he told me the story of how his wife was killed (shot for no reason while driving on 295). The story was heart breaking but the message was chilling and uplifting (words directly from the Lord). The message was three simple words that will get you through any situation.
Belief -- Determines -- Behavior
I have the message displayed on my desk to remind me everyday that the Lord is there for me and if I just have faith in Him everything will work out in the end.
Ricky B. Cooksey Jr.
I was given this message from one of my classmates last week after he told me the story of how his wife was killed (shot for no reason while driving on 295). The story was heart breaking but the message was chilling and uplifting (words directly from the Lord). The message was three simple words that will get you through any situation.
Belief -- Determines -- Behavior
I have the message displayed on my desk to remind me everyday that the Lord is there for me and if I just have faith in Him everything will work out in the end.
Ricky B. Cooksey Jr.
A thought for today
"For me, a miracle is seeing the world with light in your eyes. It's knowing there's always hope and possibility where none seems to exist."
—Oprah
—Oprah
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Just Wondering
I was thinking the other day: I wonder if Oprah has business cards? Then I wondered if she does what in the word would it say: Oprah Winfrey CEO & President Harpo Productions? Or Maybe Philanthropist Extrodanaire? Does she even need a business card, I think not. But I still wonder if she has one. I'll ask the next time I talk to Ms. Gayle King. :0)
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
More Black History
Garrett A. Morgan was an inventor and businessman from Cleveland Ohio. Morgan is credited with inventing: The gas mask, the traffic light, and the zig-zag stitching attachment for sewing machine. Morgan is also credited as being the very 1st African-American to own a car.
Monday, February 26, 2007
As We Round out February
I didn't quite meet my goal of posting everyday but as I find new interesting facts I will still be posting and sharing. Also thanks to everyone who has left comments!
I did a little research on the terms: negro, black, & African American. I looked more closely at these classifications because I have a hard time describing myself as black. I've never actually seen a black person, maybe cinnamon brown, cocoa colored, or even plum colored but never black. I, as I'm sure other people have, have been searching for a better term to describe my race and I've decided that black just ain't it! I also used to oppose African-American, because people who are from the continent of Africa and migrate to America are considered African-American. After my research I think African-American will suffice until I can come up with something else. So take a look at what I found, hopefully it will open your mind a little.
Negro/Colored/Nigrah/Nigger-1960
The term negro, literally meant "black", was used by theSpanish and Portuguese to refer to dark-skinned people. It fell out of favor by the 1970s in the United States, though it is still in use by a small number of older individuals (in its original sense)
Lyndon B. Johnson was the last American president to publicly refer to the African American population as Negroes, which, for much of his life, he pronounced "nig-ruhs", widely considered an insult by African Americans.
Black-70’s The Black Power movement defiantly embraced Black as a group identifier—a term they themselves had repudiated only two decades earlier—a term often associated in English with things negative and undesirable, proclaiming, "Black is beautiful".
Afro-American first used by Maya Angelou-1980’s
African American- During the 1980s, the most influential proponent of the widespread adoption of the term was Jesse Jackson. Jackson and like-minded persons argued that African American was more in keeping with the United States tradition of "hyphenated Americans", which links people with their ancestors' geographic points of origin, and allows people to assert pride in their ethnic heritage, while maintaining an American national identity. There is some criticism of the term 'African American'. To be African American, some argue that an individual would have to be born in Africa, then immigrate to the U.S., and then obtain citizenship. By this definition, an overwhelming majority of Black Americans would not be African American, but of African descent.
I did a little research on the terms: negro, black, & African American. I looked more closely at these classifications because I have a hard time describing myself as black. I've never actually seen a black person, maybe cinnamon brown, cocoa colored, or even plum colored but never black. I, as I'm sure other people have, have been searching for a better term to describe my race and I've decided that black just ain't it! I also used to oppose African-American, because people who are from the continent of Africa and migrate to America are considered African-American. After my research I think African-American will suffice until I can come up with something else. So take a look at what I found, hopefully it will open your mind a little.
Negro/Colored/Nigrah/Nigger-1960
The term negro, literally meant "black", was used by theSpanish and Portuguese to refer to dark-skinned people. It fell out of favor by the 1970s in the United States, though it is still in use by a small number of older individuals (in its original sense)
Lyndon B. Johnson was the last American president to publicly refer to the African American population as Negroes, which, for much of his life, he pronounced "nig-ruhs", widely considered an insult by African Americans.
Black-70’s The Black Power movement defiantly embraced Black as a group identifier—a term they themselves had repudiated only two decades earlier—a term often associated in English with things negative and undesirable, proclaiming, "Black is beautiful".
Afro-American first used by Maya Angelou-1980’s
African American- During the 1980s, the most influential proponent of the widespread adoption of the term was Jesse Jackson. Jackson and like-minded persons argued that African American was more in keeping with the United States tradition of "hyphenated Americans", which links people with their ancestors' geographic points of origin, and allows people to assert pride in their ethnic heritage, while maintaining an American national identity. There is some criticism of the term 'African American'. To be African American, some argue that an individual would have to be born in Africa, then immigrate to the U.S., and then obtain citizenship. By this definition, an overwhelming majority of Black Americans would not be African American, but of African descent.
Monday, February 19, 2007
It Ain't Over
Okay here's another little known black history fact that I just read today and thought I'd share:
As track and field athlete, Alice Coachman was the first African-American woman to win a gold medal in Olympic competition. Initially banned from training with white athletes as a child, Coachman created her own athletic regimen and made her own equipment until she was able to join her high school team. She won a scholarship to the Tuskegee Institute in Alabama, and competed as the only African-American athlete on five All-American teams. At the 1948 Olympics in London, Coachman battled through back problems to take home the gold medal. She was the only American woman to medal that year.
As track and field athlete, Alice Coachman was the first African-American woman to win a gold medal in Olympic competition. Initially banned from training with white athletes as a child, Coachman created her own athletic regimen and made her own equipment until she was able to join her high school team. She won a scholarship to the Tuskegee Institute in Alabama, and competed as the only African-American athlete on five All-American teams. At the 1948 Olympics in London, Coachman battled through back problems to take home the gold medal. She was the only American woman to medal that year.
Friday, February 09, 2007
Always So Innovative
"We wish to plead our own cause. Too long have others spoken for us"
Doesn't that quote still ring very true for many of us today? Those words were spoken by Samual Cornish and John B. Russwurm on the front page of Freedom's Journal, the very 1st black owned and operater newspaper that was ever published in the US. This was a weekly publication in New York from 1827 to 1829.
Freedom's Journal denounced slavery and advocated for black people's political rights, the right to vote, and spoke out against lynchings. As a paper of record, Freedom's Journal published birth, death and wedding announcements. To encourage black achievement it featured biographies of renowned black figures such as Paul Cuffee, a black Bostonian who owned a trading ship staffed by free black people, Touissant L'Ouverture and poet Phyllis Wheatley. The paper also printed school, job and housing listings.
Just another Black History Fact for ya. It's something I didn't know so I thought I would share.
Doesn't that quote still ring very true for many of us today? Those words were spoken by Samual Cornish and John B. Russwurm on the front page of Freedom's Journal, the very 1st black owned and operater newspaper that was ever published in the US. This was a weekly publication in New York from 1827 to 1829.
Freedom's Journal denounced slavery and advocated for black people's political rights, the right to vote, and spoke out against lynchings. As a paper of record, Freedom's Journal published birth, death and wedding announcements. To encourage black achievement it featured biographies of renowned black figures such as Paul Cuffee, a black Bostonian who owned a trading ship staffed by free black people, Touissant L'Ouverture and poet Phyllis Wheatley. The paper also printed school, job and housing listings.
Just another Black History Fact for ya. It's something I didn't know so I thought I would share.
Thursday, February 08, 2007
You Go Girl!
"Tears will get you sympathy. Sweat will get you change."-Jesse Jackson, minister and activist

Carol Mosely-Braun made history in 1992 when she was elected to the U.S. Senate, becoming the first, and thus far only, black woman senator. Her election marked the first time Illinois had elected a woman, and the first time a black person was elected as a Democratic Party candidate to the United States Senate. She was one of two African Americans to serve in the Senate in the 20th century, and was the sole African American in the Senate from 1993 to 1999.
In Sept. 2003, she announced her candidacy for U.S. president making her the 3rd Black woman in history to try to become the president, but pulled out in Jan. 2004 to throw her support to Howard Dean.
Moseley-Braun graduated from the University of Illinois at Chicago in 1969 and earned a law degree from the University of Chicago in 1972. She currently owns and runs a private law firm, Moseley Braun LLC in Chicago.

Carol Mosely-Braun made history in 1992 when she was elected to the U.S. Senate, becoming the first, and thus far only, black woman senator. Her election marked the first time Illinois had elected a woman, and the first time a black person was elected as a Democratic Party candidate to the United States Senate. She was one of two African Americans to serve in the Senate in the 20th century, and was the sole African American in the Senate from 1993 to 1999.
In Sept. 2003, she announced her candidacy for U.S. president making her the 3rd Black woman in history to try to become the president, but pulled out in Jan. 2004 to throw her support to Howard Dean.
Moseley-Braun graduated from the University of Illinois at Chicago in 1969 and earned a law degree from the University of Chicago in 1972. She currently owns and runs a private law firm, Moseley Braun LLC in Chicago.
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
Say It Loud!
Black History Quote for the Day: "Freedom is never given; it is won." A. Phillip Randolf
I think people like Shirley Chisholm exemplify this quote. Mrs. Chisholm
was the first black person ever to run for President Candidacy. In 1964 Chisholm ran for a state assembly seat which she won and served in the New York General Assembly from 1964 to 1968. In 1968, after finishing her term in the legislature, Chisholm campaigned to represent New York's Twelfth Congressional District. Her campaign slogan was "Fighting Shirley Chisholm--Unbought and Unbossed." She won the election and became the first African American woman elected to Congress. On January 25, 1972, Chisholm announced her candidacy for president, which she did not win but received 151 delegate votes.

Women like Mrs. Shirley Chisholm make me proud to be a Black woman! For more information on Shirley Chisholm, of course you can Google her or check out this link: http://www.pbs.org/wnet/aaworld/reference/articles/shirley_chisholm.html
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
The History of Black History Month
As we all know February is Black History Month, so I thought it would be cool to try to post everyday a new and maybe little known black history fact. Don't worry, I'm going to cover each one of those 6 folks who ran for president so you can look for that coming soon!
So, here is today's fact" Americans have recognized black history annually since 1926, first as "Negro History Week" and later as "Black History Month". We owe the celebration of Black History Month, and more importantly, the
study of black history, to Dr. Carter G. Woodson. Dr. Woodson, a Harvard PhD, decided to take on the challenge of writing Blacks into history books.

Dr. Carter G. Woodson, we speak your name. (I borrowed that from Oprah!) I thank God that Dr. Woodson inconvenienced himself to do something special for his people. Without people like him we would still be absent from all history books, save for the brief mention we get when slavery is glanced over as the Emancipation Proclamation is taught.
Friday, January 26, 2007
Politics
I've just realized recently that I really don't know enough about politics or the rules of how our country is supposed to be run. Ya know they say ignorance or the lack of knowledge is the great divide, it's how the people who are in the know keep others out! I got my voters registration card when I turned 18 and have participated in every election since but I can truthfully say that I have just recently gotten more interested in the history of voting in the last couple of years. And actually interested enough to learn more in the last couple of months. I feel like I need to know everything about voting, our election process, The White House, and each past president we've had. I've been interested in the election process now since we have Hillary Clinton has through her hat in the ring for the 2008 election and hopefully so will Barack Obama. With the possibility that Mr. Obama will be running it made me start thinking "hey, how many black people have actually run for presidential candidacy?" I love Google, so I did a search and how found that only 6 black people have ever run for president.
I knew about Rev. Al Sharpton, Rev. Jesse Jackson, Shirley Chisholm (shout out to Tajh & Jai :0) and Carol Moseley Braun, who actually ran for the democratic candidacy in 2004; but I had no idea about Alan Keyes or Lenora Fulani. I bet most people have no idea of how many black folks have actually tried to be president, I actually thought it was a larger number; so I'm going to be posting some information on each one of these past candidates especially the ones that I don't know anything about. I figure as I learn about these great people why not share the knowledge. Also I'm going to be sharing some of the research that I do on the subjects I'm interested in that are listed above. If you have questions about our election process that I can try to help with let me know or even better if you have something to contribute leave a comment!
Let's get out and vote in Nov. 2008!
I knew about Rev. Al Sharpton, Rev. Jesse Jackson, Shirley Chisholm (shout out to Tajh & Jai :0) and Carol Moseley Braun, who actually ran for the democratic candidacy in 2004; but I had no idea about Alan Keyes or Lenora Fulani. I bet most people have no idea of how many black folks have actually tried to be president, I actually thought it was a larger number; so I'm going to be posting some information on each one of these past candidates especially the ones that I don't know anything about. I figure as I learn about these great people why not share the knowledge. Also I'm going to be sharing some of the research that I do on the subjects I'm interested in that are listed above. If you have questions about our election process that I can try to help with let me know or even better if you have something to contribute leave a comment!
Let's get out and vote in Nov. 2008!
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Oh, It's still very much alive
Racism & Ignorance! Boy, stuff like this just makes me furious and makes me wanna cuss. I know there are ignorant people of all colors and of each sex but I don't hear anybody telling the Jews to "just get over" the Holocaust or the Irish to get over the slavery their people went through. I'm going to get on my soapbox a little more before I post the dumb comments that Frank Hargrove, the Va state legislator, made in public! Okay so, slavery of any people is horrible. It was bad when the Egyptians had slaves just like the slavery was horrible here in America but there has never been a slavery system quite like the one here in the US where the people are set free into a worse situation! Sure now we have freedom but what am I supposed to due with it as a newly freed slave!!! You won't give me a decent paying job, I can't buy land, and I can't even eat or clothe myself. So 140 years later, which really isn't all that long ya know, most of us are still suffering from the effects of slavery. And this freakin idiot says we need to get over it. Boy I am steamed up right now!! I may post something a little less aggressive about this later but for now here is the article I read:
Lawmaker Under Fire for Slavery Comment
By BOB LEWIS
RICHMOND, Va. (Jan. 16) - A state legislator said black people "should get over" slavery and questioned whether Jews should apologize "for killing Christ," drawing denunciations Tuesday from stunned colleagues. Del. Frank D. Hargrove, 79, made his remarks in opposition to a measure that would apologize on the state's behalf to the descendants of slaves. In an interview published Tuesday in The Daily Progress of Charlottesville, Hargrove said slavery ended nearly 140 years ago with the Civil War and added that "our black citizens should get over it."
The newspaper also quoted him as saying, "are we going to force the Jews to apologize for killing Christ?" Black lawmakers swiftly denounced Hargrove's comments. "When somebody tells me I should just get over slavery, I can only express my emotion by projecting that I am appalled, absolutely appalled," said Del. Dwight C. Jones, head of the Legislative Black Caucus. Del. David L. Englin also criticized Hargrove's remarks, recalling that his grandparents were driven from their homes in Poland "by people who believed that as Jews, we killed Christ." When Hargrove rose to speak, he told Englin he didn't care about Englin's religion. "I think your skin was a little too thin," Hargrove said as lawmakers gasped and groaned.
Lawmaker Under Fire for Slavery Comment
By BOB LEWIS
RICHMOND, Va. (Jan. 16) - A state legislator said black people "should get over" slavery and questioned whether Jews should apologize "for killing Christ," drawing denunciations Tuesday from stunned colleagues. Del. Frank D. Hargrove, 79, made his remarks in opposition to a measure that would apologize on the state's behalf to the descendants of slaves. In an interview published Tuesday in The Daily Progress of Charlottesville, Hargrove said slavery ended nearly 140 years ago with the Civil War and added that "our black citizens should get over it."
The newspaper also quoted him as saying, "are we going to force the Jews to apologize for killing Christ?" Black lawmakers swiftly denounced Hargrove's comments. "When somebody tells me I should just get over slavery, I can only express my emotion by projecting that I am appalled, absolutely appalled," said Del. Dwight C. Jones, head of the Legislative Black Caucus. Del. David L. Englin also criticized Hargrove's remarks, recalling that his grandparents were driven from their homes in Poland "by people who believed that as Jews, we killed Christ." When Hargrove rose to speak, he told Englin he didn't care about Englin's religion. "I think your skin was a little too thin," Hargrove said as lawmakers gasped and groaned.
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Anyone remember...
When you could turn on the TV and there would actually be programs on about Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.? As I was off yesterday, I sat and looked through all the channels that we have (and we have quite a few) and I couldn't find any program at all. When I was younger, I remember watching at least 3 or 4 shows during that day off of school. No wonder people have forgotten, I think it's so sad.
No one wants to inconvenience themselves enough now to do anything like what Dr. King did for people. It took a lot of sacrifice on his part to be the man that he was. I'm sure it would have been easy for Dr. King to say, "No I think I'm going to stay home with my wife and children. Let someone else worry about it." I'm so glad that he didn't.
Since the television networks don't find it necessary to show programs about this great man's life, I will be purchasing the following 2 DVD's, so that my daughter can see and understand what we teach her about Dr. King. Because I'm sure that when she is old enough there won't even be much spoken about his legacy or work.
Our Friend Martin: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0000TPAHY/ref=wl_it_dp/104-2846783-2911936?ie=UTF8&coliid=I3L1DGBN3C9RDZ&colid=28TR5BWFAEWEN
Citizen King: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0006Z2L5G/ref=wl_it_dp/104-2846783-2911936?ie=UTF8&coliid=I286EZE65Y6ULZ&colid=28TR5BWFAEWEN
No one wants to inconvenience themselves enough now to do anything like what Dr. King did for people. It took a lot of sacrifice on his part to be the man that he was. I'm sure it would have been easy for Dr. King to say, "No I think I'm going to stay home with my wife and children. Let someone else worry about it." I'm so glad that he didn't.
Since the television networks don't find it necessary to show programs about this great man's life, I will be purchasing the following 2 DVD's, so that my daughter can see and understand what we teach her about Dr. King. Because I'm sure that when she is old enough there won't even be much spoken about his legacy or work.
Our Friend Martin: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0000TPAHY/ref=wl_it_dp/104-2846783-2911936?ie=UTF8&coliid=I3L1DGBN3C9RDZ&colid=28TR5BWFAEWEN
Citizen King: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0006Z2L5G/ref=wl_it_dp/104-2846783-2911936?ie=UTF8&coliid=I286EZE65Y6ULZ&colid=28TR5BWFAEWEN
Sunday, January 07, 2007
A New Year
It's been a while since I posted... Mostly due to vacation and really just trying to center myself to ramp up for this new year. I can feel big things on my horizon and I really feel that I need to be a lot more prepared than I am. I'm not 100% sure of what God will be sending my way but I do know that I want to be ready or at least as ready as I can be when I receive it.
So anyway I'm back and I plan on posting just a regularly as I was last year. Of course I've got some more thought provoking posts coming as well as some more product recommendations! I love to share cool products. So anyway, look out for the next posts and leave some comments whenever the mood strikes ya!
So anyway I'm back and I plan on posting just a regularly as I was last year. Of course I've got some more thought provoking posts coming as well as some more product recommendations! I love to share cool products. So anyway, look out for the next posts and leave some comments whenever the mood strikes ya!
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